Forgiveness and the Law of AttractionAuthor: Beth & Lee McCain
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Can forgiving someone help you to apply the Law of Attraction intentionally?
Do you have someone that you have a hard time with? Maybe someone who is always late every time you see them? They end up being at least an hour late no matter what the situation. You have a hard time forgiving them for being late and you start to build resentment. All these strong feelings are signaling the Universe to bring you similar feelings back to you. In this case, a resentful feeling. Not forgiving someone can actually slow down the process of obtaining what you want through the Law of Attraction.
Twelve years ago a traumatic experience happened to me. Someone tried to strangle me. The hardest part of this experience was that it was a family member (by marriage) who tried to end my life. At the time, he was on testosterone and had an undiagnosed bi-polar/schizophrenic condition. But even so, this incident traumatized me and my then eleven year old daughter. We handled it as best we could while getting restraining orders, going to the doctor, filling out police paperwork, and taking my daughter to a counselor to help her through the scary experience of seeing her own mother strangled. I had been sheltered by my parents all my life and nothing like this had ever happened in our family. This was no time for forgiveness.
This incident happened before I understood the Law of Attraction and forgiveness was not on my list. My brother-in-law went to jail and I figured my sister would leave him after she saw what he was capable of. I didn't need to forgive him; he wouldn't enter into my world ever again. I was wrong. He served his time and my sister went straight back to him. This was something that I would have to deal with. He wasn't leaving my life and I decided I was not going to be around my sister or her husband ever again.
Not long after this incident I began searching for answers in my life and found the Law of Attraction. What an incredible find! Here was the answer to attaining what I wanted in life.
To intentionally apply the Law of Attraction, I learned that I had to deconstruct who I was and my belief and behavior patterns and build brand new ones. This was going to be exciting. Then I realized that I was going to have to deal with 'the incident' and somehow rid myself of the feelings I was harboring.
The incident had left me feeling angry and hurt. My sister hurt me by going back to this man and I was angry with myself for not fighting back. I was hurt from the mental anguish it had caused my daughter, and me, not to mention the physical pain I had experienced after the attack. I felt like this man had taken some of my personal power away. So applying the Law of Attraction, while harboring all these feelings, was going to be an issue. I knew I had to lose the feelings and the only way I knew how was through forgiveness.
You see, it isn't just about your forgiveness of another. When someone hurts you, it isn't just you. It is your spouse, your children, your parents, and anyone who is close to you. When you have all those strong angry and hurt emotions it affects everyone. Not to mention instigating emotions of fear.
Apparently my brother in law got help for his bi-polar issues and he stopped the testosterone. This made it a little easier for me to remotely consider forgiveness. Who does the forgiveness help? Out of anyone, it helps the victim. Because once you forgive, you are no longer a victim. I decided that I was going to forgive him, but not the act. My logical mind could handle a little forgiveness for him but not for what he had done. This was a start.
But let me tell you this. When I completely forgave the act and the person, I felt like a new woman. I no longer felt like a victim. I felt like I took my power back and not only that, I felt like I fought back by forgiving. When I released all the hurt and anger and decided I didn't need it anymore, I could see clear once again. He had nothing on me. It took a little time to release the welled-up emotions but over time, I did.
No more anger flashes, no more hurt flashes. I 'let go' of this situation because I am no longer about the woman who was strangled. I am much more than that, and in order to get past that traumatic experience, I had to forgive for myself so that I could move on.
When you don't forgive someone, you are only hurting yourself. All those angry, scared and hurt feelings are keeping you from being all that you can be in life. It doesn't mean that you have to hang out with the offender, but it is important to get rid of those strong negative emotions; the ones that could be keeping you from your desires when too much focus is put toward the negative emotions.
Do you have someone you want to forgive?
It is freeing to forgive another, no matter what hurtful act was done. By truly forgiving someone you can move forward in your life. Get beyond 'the incident' and 'let go' of the strong negative feelings. Concentrate on who you really are and concentrate on your wonderful life without 'the incident'. Don't let 'the incident' be a crutch to enable you to feel bad. Become a forgiving person and you will soon find that it will be a lot easier manifesting your desires when applying the Law of Attraction.
Beth and Lee McCain are full time instructors and lecturers in applying the Law of Attraction, or better known as the Secret, in your life to attain whatever you desire. They have a great radio show on Youtube that is both entertaining as well as informative on the subject of the Law of Attraction. Please visit: Beth and Lee McCain Law of Attraction Web Site